Setback…. Bounceback

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A guy born in 55 wrote that It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters. When I say he was born in 55, I mean 55 A.D., not 1955. To Epictetus, suffering arises from trying to control what is uncontrollable, or from neglecting what is within our power. Philosophy, he taught, is a way of life and not just a theoretical discipline. I am amazed by the timelessness of this quote. Obviously, people have been encountering challenge since the dawn of time. The details may change, but it’s the human condition.

What is your “way of life”, when it comes to challenge, adversity, delay and setbacks? What is your consciousness level relative to “what happens to you”? Do your recognize a process or cycle that you go through mentally and/or physically during challenging times? While not yet time-tested, I am working on a plan for recognizing and recovering from setbacks I encounter. This is part of my own journey in business and in life. Here’s the plan I’m working on. Perhaps it can be effective for you, too:

  • Create a discipline of being aware of or sensing adversity just around the bend. Mind your instinct. At times you realize that you are on a path to adversity well in advance of a setback. Learn to study the signs and be an early responder. If you sense trouble ahead,  correct your course immediately in order to prevent the setback or to minimize a negative impact to others, your business and yourself . I’ve found that slight adjustments often make a huge difference in success over time. They can prevent failure, illness and financial demise. Take action when you sense trouble. If you own a small company and you’re afraid that payroll may become an issue in 120 days, do not delay! If you have fallen off of your points plan two days in a row and weigh-in is three days away, do not delay! If you have heard rumblings about jobs at your company being moved to another location in eighteen months and you sense that you may not have a job when that happens –  begin thinking about alternate careers, or where you can find work similar to your own,  consider a move – do not delay!
  • Make every attempt to keep calm and maintain  presence of mind during and after adversity. The “rush” to fix everything that is off track can be exciting, but your first response may not be the best response. Over time, we develop a set of knee jerk first responses in our lives. We may apply the same recipe for correction across all situations. To combat the effect of hammering at every challenge the same way, staying calm and creating options will likely speed your bounceback. Practicality helps you get back on track. I have found that effective solutions are often three-phased: Short-term/Mid-Term and Long-Term. When you don’t have to correct everything all at once, it’s often easier to stay the course of correction.
  • Seek advice about how to get back on track with an objective third-party – not those in your life who are quick to criticize or judge you and not those who will just sympathize with you and tell you that everyone else is at fault for your current circumstance (in other words, not those who will keep you in a perpetually emotional state). This is a terrific time to consider hiring a career or personal coach for a short duration – 60 or 90 days to start. Don’t mistake a coach for a therapist. Your coach is a mirror and a guide. Your coach will help you stay accountable for progress. Your coach helps you find your bridge to higher ground.
  • Begin. Check-in. Maintain. – Your Setback to Bounceback  timeframe generally depends on how radical an adjustment is needed. You’re more likely remain on track if you acknowledge your effort and progress. Acknowleging your effort is key to maintaining your correction plan.  The greatest reward for me in bouncing back from setbacks is most often the discoveries I make about  myself, my tenacity, my adaptability and my resourceful nature.

I wish you well on your journey and as always, welcome your comments and tales from the road.

~ Tess

Copyright 2011

Destiny Rising, LLC

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