In or Out? Stay or Go? Five Easy Steps to Help You Make Decisions

Make The Call!

Have you ever gone around and around in circles on an issue/topic without ever identifying the sticking points? I know for a fact that I have subjected family and friends to my own indecision countless times.  I’ve also listened to hundreds of clients talk about the pluses and minuses of decisions they’re making. Often, they are trapped in indecision because they have not identified the critical factors or sticking points on  a job offer,  a decision about where to go to school or a decision about whether r not to stay in a relationship.

We’ve all played the +/- game many times over. It’s a game that’s particularly effective and critical during times of difficult discernment. I’ve discovered that at the end of the game, I walk away inspired and with a sense of clarity about the moves I must make in order for my life to improve. I invite you to play it with me now.

  1. Use a blank sheet of paper. Put a line in the middle. Label one column “+” and the other column “-“. Title the page. It could be titled  “Finding a New Job” or “Starting My Own Company” or “My Marriage” or “Going Back To School” or “Relocating to D.C.” . Whatever the topic of the voices in your head, that’s probably a great name for your document.
  2. In the upper left-hand corner, write the words Before and After. Next to the word Before, rate (on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being high) how strongly you are drawn to the topic you’re assessing (For example, “Relocating to D.C.” – if you really are leaning toward wanting to relocate, you’d probably rate it somewhere between 7 and 10. If you have much trepidation and doubt or just an uneasy feeling, you’d probably rate it somewhere between 1 and 3).
  3. Now, spend about ten minutes listing the pluses and the minuses related to your selected topic.
  4. When your list is complete, go back up to the upper left-hand corner of the page. Next to the word After, rate (on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being high) how strongly you are drawn to the topic you’ve assessed. Compare the two scores.  On the back of the page, make a few notes about how the scores compare and why they differ or match.
  5. Next, circle the single most major ” +”  and “-” .  If that + or – was absent from your list, would your thoughts/leanings about the topic change dramatically? It’s likely that the major + or  – is the critical factors that may be holding up your ability to decide which direction to go.

Whether or not this exercise will provides your “final answer”, you’ll certainly have a clearer sense of the direction you’re headed.

As always, I welcome your comments.

Make it a great week!

Copyright 2011

Destiny Rising, LLC

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