Set Positive Expectations

Many people ask me for advice about how to get started with their Vision Board or Vision practice. Today,  I continue my New Year’s series of perspectives on building effective Vision Boards (and simple ways to approach change without a Vision Board.)

Have you ever heard the term “set point”?  It’s your stating point – the place from which you will judge what is happening around you. For the purposes of this discussion, let’s call it your vantage point, your perspective on the likelihood of an outcome, your angle of observation.

On a scale of 1-10, 10 being high, what is your natural set-point (perspective) about the future you would like to have? It may be below a 5 if  your inner critic consistently gives you messages such as  “Yeah, but”, “That’s great, except that”, and “It’ll never happen”.  That critic needs to be quieted.  If this  happens to you,  then try the tips listed at the end of this post. They’re designed to distance you from that inner critic.

In looking at those I work and play with, I notice that life happens to some people while other people happen to life.  Which of these describes you?

  • You’re like Rubber duck in a toddler’s bathtub:  Regardless of the waves and splashing, you bob back up to the surface and keep smiling. You keep showing up for the bath, because it’s an adventure.
  • You’re a little afraid of the water:   You may be sensitive to too much movement, soap in the eyes and a water fight. It can all get overwhelming and once you’ve gotten splashed, you don’t want to go back into that bathtub again.
  • You don’t want to bother with a bathtub:  You want the ocean! A bath is mundane and boring. You need the drama of the big waves.
  • You bathe with abandon: You ask “What’s happening that’s water related today? Bath or Beach? You are ready with  They are ready with a nose plug, fins, a sand pail and a towel. You want to live it all, big or small.

If you’re going on the adventure to create a revised future, one that matches the picture in your mind, you’ll have to forge new territories and develop some tools to help you stay he course.

I’ve identified four steps to setting positive expectations for the vision you’ve built in your vision projects:

1. Focus on  what’s good or beneficial in your life before you spend time working on or spending time focusing on your vision board. Spend 20 – 30 minutes with an enjoyable activity, with music, or surfing the web for stories of inspiration of people who have overcome obstacles. The goal is to get to a neutral or better spot.

2. Sit down and write or type a list the many talents and experiences you have that should serve as breadcrumbs to a positive outcome. There may be more distance between some breadcrumbs than others, but keep adding bits of positive belief to your trail. You’ll begin to see a well-paved path to your outcome. Don’t destroy this list. You may need to refer to it from time to time. You might even keep it in your purse or wallet as ongoing inspiration.
3. Build bridges between your breadcrumbs.  Be indulgent and imagine people  giving you a helping hand when you need it. Make a list of things you’d like to ask of those you know (or those you don’t) and write out a scenario in which they have assisted you with your request. Once youąve imagined it, then you have pictured the possibility. You also have a plan of how their “yes” might play out.

4. If you’ve already created a Vision Board, consider it a work in progress. Paste over neutral statements with WOW! Statements. Your vision board won’t be offended. It wants to be a powerful tool for you. Layer it with boldness.Make it better than it was the day you created it.

Creating a habit of Positive expectations , like many other skills, it takes practice and discipline. Try it on for just five minutes per day, as you would a new item of clothing  or a new instrument you picked up at the music store.
copyright 2010 Destiny Rising

Best of luck in trying this out. I welcome your questions and success stories.

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